Unlocking Your Self-Improvement Power
When we look at a certain object, a painting for example – we won’t be able to appreciate what’s in it, what is painted and what else goes with it if the painting is just an inch away from our face. But if we take a step back we’ll have a clearer vision of the whole art work.
We reach a point in our life when we are ready for change and information that will help us unlock our self-improvement power. Until then, something can be staring us right in the face, but we don’t see it. The only time we think of unlocking our self-improvement power is when things are going bad for us.
Take the frog principle for example. Try placing Frog A in a pot of boiling water. What happens? He twerps! He jumps off! Why? Because he is not able to tolerate sudden change in his environment – the water’s temperature. Then try Frog B – place him in lukewarm water, then gradually raise the temperature. Wait until the water reaches a certain boiling point. Frog B then thinks “Ooh… it’s a bit warm in here”, but continues to sit peacefully until it becomes unbearable.
People are like Frog B in general. Today, Anna thinks Carl hates her. Tomorrow, Patrick walks up to her and tells her that Carl does in fact hate her. Anna remains unfazed and doesn’t seem to mind what her friend Patrick just told her. The next day, she learns that Kim and John also hate her. It still does not bother her because she still has friends like Patrick. Anna doesn’t realize all at once the importance and the need for self-improvement until the entire community starts hating her including Patrick.
We learn our lessons when we experience pain. We finally see the warning signs and signals when things get rough and tough. When do we realize that we need to change diets? When none of our clothes fit us anymore. When do we stop eating candy and chocolates? When we have a bunch of cavities and our teeth start falling out. When do we realize that we need to stop smoking? When our lungs have gone bad. When do we pray and ask for help? When we realize that we’re going to die tomorrow.
The only time most of us ever learn about unlocking our self-improvement power is when the whole world is crashing and falling apart around us. We think and feel this way because it is not easy to change. But change becomes more painful when we ignore it.
Like it or not it, change will happen. At one point or another, we are all going to experience different turning points in our lives – and we are all going to eventually unlock our self-improvement power not because the world says so, not because our friends are nagging us, but because we realized it’s for our own good.
Happy people don’t just accept change, they embrace it. Unlocking your self-improvement power means freeing yourself from the cage of thought that keeps telling you “It’s just the way I am”. These words are simply a poor excuse for people who fear and resist change.
Jen repeatedly tells everyone that she is shy and feels uncomfortable around groups of people. She often heard her mom, her dad, her sister, and even her teachers say the same thing about her to other people. Over the years Jen came to accept and believe this. She believes it’s true and that this is just the way she is. And what happens? Every time new people come over to her house, to the school, or in the community – she would step back, shy away and lock herself up in a room. Jen didn’t only believe this about herself, she lived it.
Jen has to realize that she is not what other people make her out be. Instead of having her life created and dictated by other people, she has to have the spirit and courage to show people “I am an important person and I should be treated accordingly!”
Self-improvement may not be everybody’s favorite topic, but if we look at things in a different point of view, we might have a greater chance of enjoying the whole process instead of counting the days until we are fully improved. Three weekly sessions at the gym would result in a healthier life, reading books will improve your all around knowledge, going out with friends and peers will help you to take a step back from work and unwind. And just when you are enjoying the whole process of unlocking your self-improvement power, you’ll realize that you are beginning to appreciate yourself and what’s around you a lot more, and that you are becoming a more satisfied and happier person.